Posted on

Not Eating Dinner Syndrome

Not Eating Dinner Syndrome

Not Eating Dinner Syndrome

Do you suffer from not eating dinner syndrome?

So lately, we are suffering from the not eating dinner syndrome in our household.  Mr J is 20 months and has always gone between picking like a sparrow and demolishing like an eating machine.

The Situation

Lately he seems to be devouring breakfast and then petering off for the remainder of the day preferring milk in a Sippy cup or a bottle of formula. By dinner time, he is over it!
Firstly, he is a snacker!!!. Has loves biscuits and fruit and snack type foods – ANYTHING sweet. The human body is always amazing to me as my daughter comes from the same gene pool and has always had a penchant for savoury foods. Therefore, a kid that goes for everything sweet is new to me.

Mr J is a typical toddler in that he wants what he wants when he wants it and nothing else will do. I am always racking my brain to find something for him to eat that is healthy and that he will enjoy. He will try new foods, which is sometimes half the battle, but he likes something one day but not the next and is a fussy eater.

My Ideal

I have always tried to maintain a family dinner with varying degrees of success. Ideally, I would like us all to sit down together as a family and discuss our day or chat about upcoming things we are going to be doing. Now in reality the TV remains on most of the time which involves the kids, and the husband, glued to the TV and getting any conversation is sometimes a chore.

Now hubby works long hours and is rarely home in time for dinner, which makes it hard to stick to a routine with the kids so I try to have dinner with them and we aim between 6:00pm to 6:30pm.

Up until a few months ago, Mr J would sit in his high chair when we got home around 5:15pm and have food, either some yogurt or a sandwich or something substantial and then I would bath him and we would all sit down together and he would have a second round of food before bed.

The Issue

Suddenly he decided he did not like eating by himself and therefore wanted to wait until we all sit down together. Thus has been born the non-eater. I believe he is now too tired at the time we have dinner so does not eat and whinges which results in him going to bed. The hard part with that is he wakes up at 5:15am and wants a bottle, which I have come to realise, is because he is hungry!

Firstly, I began so that he had the same meals as everyone, thinking this would be incentive to eat just like everyone else.

Secondly, I tried different meals for him and stuck to things he likes so that would encourage him to eat.

Thirdly, I have given him a number of options so that he has a few things to choose from so he could pick whatever tickled his fancy on the day.

RESULT = not eating dinner syndrome.

So what to do?

So next, I think I am going to go back to the two-fold dinner. Give him something to eat, that he likes, when we first get home. I hope that he eats that, and then sit him down with the family to have a second course. We will try that and see how we go and then fingers crossed he will have a full tummy and now wake so early.
I know I am not along in this and have Googled the issues and I have listed some good sites below, however please share your experiences below as I would love to hear how you solve these problems at your house.

Here are also some articles I found when I searched for tips on keeping them safe:

Hope you found this article either amusing or interesting – thanks for reading.

Mel Parish

126 views

Posted on

How do you keep them safe?

How do you keep them safe?

Discussion on child safety in this day and age from stranger danger to technology

Stranger Danger

So in this day and age there are sooo many things to think about to try and protect your children from and and inform them about so they are aware. From the standard just crossing the street and being careful with sharp knifes and not running with scissors to stranger danger, bullying and cyber safety.

When I was younger it seemed like there was so much less to worry about.  You didn’t get in the car with, talk to or go anywhere with strangers. But unless it was the same and it just wasn’t as well publicised or reported – today seems like a lot more things we need to be teaching our children. Every other day you hear about a child being attacked or nearly attacked and most of the time it is sexually. So how do you go about trying to protect and educate your kids without freaking them out totally and making them scared someone is going to ‘take’ or ‘hurt’ them?????

So as kids do, my daughter (Miss S who is 6) gets scared about watching ‘baddies’ on TV but then I am always telling her to be careful when we are in the shopping centre and don’t stray or run away from me and don’t talk to strangers.  A few times she has said “I have to be careful or someone might take me” and lately we have to tell her nothing bad is going to happen to her every night.   Now the mummy guilt kicks in that I’ve frightened her but I also think she needs to be aware that the world isn’t fully of unicorns and rainbows but how far do you go?

I would say I am probably a more cautious and over-protective parent than your average parent as my mother was before me. In our house, we have an open door theory (bedrooms etc) and encourage frank open discussion about whatever questions the kids ask.  This is about everything from why do we eat oranges to where do babies come from.  Even with all of the above, I know my daughter is confident and I have seen her talk to complete strangers.  A few weeks ago, there was a report of someone approaching a child at the school.  Seriously how scary is that?  But what can you do?  You cannot lock them away from people altogether so we have had further discussions about what to do if someone approaches and that you “NO, GO, TELL” which has been around for ages but I don’t think you can remind them enough.

Technology

However, it does not stop there – every kid has access to at least one device that has access to the Internet as well as Netflix or some other streaming media and you can’t be there all the time.  Yes, there are parental controls and special apps that will reduce inappropriate content, however you do need to configure them and keep them up to date.  Alas, it seems that inappropriate content still creeps through. Alarmingly there are now reports of young boys thinking that porn is way that normal loving people have sex and the psychological and physical damage that that is causing both parties is almost too much for my parenting brain to think about. Nevertheless, as a parent I feel we need to step up and try and change this perception and we have a moral obligation to educate our children on these topics and not rely on the internet or some video to do it for us.  The message does not seem to be getting through.

Apart from the issue of inappropriate content seeping thought and permeating our children’s brains there is also the issue of bullying?  There are so many frightening statistics of the number of children and young adults that are constantly bullied 24/7.  When I was a teenager, prior to so much technology (yes I am that old),  when you left school for the day – that was it – you could switch off and not have anyone being nasty to you.  With access to 24/7 social media it seems relentless and there is no escape from people who want to bully others.  Even if it is, just a subset of keyboard warriors instead of the other kids you child associates with on a daily basis.

Let me ask you – do you know what your child is doing on their phone or device?  Do you connected with them on social media?  Do you know who their friends are on Snapchat and Tinder?  Gone are the days that you can say ‘Oh that is what all the kids are looking at nowadays’ – we, as parents, need to be involved.

What do we do?

I have raised a lot of questions and points here and I am by no means any sort of expert I am just a mother trying to equip her children for the current and future world and keep them safe.  For me I think and open dialogue and ensuring your kids feel comfortable in telling you what is happening or what they are concerned about are the best steps to bring the discussion out into the open.   I think we should be on all the social media platforms our children are on so we can see the content and know how they work!  I also am an avid believer that kids should not be hidden away in another room with their device, they should be out in the family room with everyone else that way you can see their expressions and keep having a sly look at the screen as well as engage them in conversation to find out what they are doing.

These things have been on my mind for some time, hence I thought I would write them down.  Feel free to share in the comments about how you protect your children and your philosophies on the points I have mentioned.  Be kind though as my mother always said treat others as you would like to be treated.

Useful Links

Here are also some articles I found when I searched for tips on keeping them safe:

Hope you found this article thought provoking if nothing else – thanks for reading.

A concerned parent doing their best.

Mel Parish

67 views

Posted on

Having a new baby here are some handy checklists

Having a new baby here are some handy checklists

Checklists

Well now that our new baby is arriving this month (February 2016) I have started to go back through the original information I pulled together when I had my first baby which is over 5 years ago.  I also started to do some research on line and came across a gazillion checklists that mentioned all sorts of stuff for all sorts of reasons.  Which at the end of the day really it is a very personal thing in terms of what is important and what you want to achieve.

So what kind of checklists are we talking about.  Well I guess the most important one I was interested in was what to pack in the hospital bag and whilst I know what I would like I wanted to ensure I covered the basics……after all 5 years is a long time and my memory ain’t what it used to be.


Hospital-Contents

Hospital Bag

Obviously the first important thing (well as far as I’m concerned) is to be prepared for every eventuality.  So for most ladies it would be your ideas for a natural birth and how you are planning to approach it and what coping mechanisms you are planning to utilise and therefore what tools you may need.  I know I had read some books, in particular one that was recommended by a friend of mine called Birth Skills which was written by Juju Sundin’s with Sarah Murdoch.  I could really relate to the techniques outlined in this book and it also had a list of suggested items to bring to the hospital.  So after reading it I had my birth plan all ready for my first baby but then as it turned out I ended up having a cesarean section (C-section) so my birth plan was out the window.  So here is a generalised list of items that are recommended that you take to the hospital along with a couple of additional ones I’ve added.  Pick and choose as you like and what works for you.

Hospital Bag Checklist (Click on the link to download our checklist).

So for the second time around I purchased the book again and started to read it but as it turns out again I’m booked in for a C-section so won’t be needing the techniques.  But being that this is the second time around I started to look around for some tips on the easiest recovery from a C-section.  Find below some links to some sites for recovery tips for both C-section and natural birth

C-Section Recovery Tips                                                                              Natural Birth Recovery Tips

The Truth About C Section Delivery & Recovery                                                Recovery After the Birth

Recoverying from a C-Section                                                                              Recovering from Delivery


nappybagcontents

Nappy Bag

So the next step after you get home from the hospital is being prepared for every possibility when you are out with the baby. Apart from the general items you will find in the list below my only tip is also include a change of top for yourself.  You don’t even think this is a possibility but there I was one day in a large shopping centre changing my bub in the change room when there was an explosion (literally) and I found myself needing a new top.  Thank goodness my mum was there with me and went and purchased one but just in case you are flying solo it is always a good idea to keep a spare in the nappy bag.  If you need a nappy bag we have some sensational ones here.

Nappy Bag Checklist (Click on the link to download our checklist).

Posted on

New Product Amorini Silver Nipple Soothers

New Product Amorini Silver Nipple Soothers

Available now at Little Treasures n Trinkets

I came across the Amorini Nipples Soothers purely by accident via a linked article from a website I was browsing and decided to contact Amorini USA to see if they had a supplier in Australia and what their wholesale details were. Looking and the literature they looked like a great idea.  With our first child I suffered with cracked sore nipples whilst breastfeeding.  I’m pregnant with our second child and am booked in for a cs in late February so when I came across this new product I thought to myself what a great opportunity to try it and see if it works and potentially stock it in our shop for other mothers.

Amorini USA didn’t currently have any stockists in Australia and I’m very excited and proud to announce that they agreed to allow Little Treasures n Trinkets to be the first company in Australia to bring you the Amorini Silver Nipple Soothers.

So what are they?  Well during a conversation with my family the other week my uncle asked if they were nipple pasties which I explained that no they aren’t.  They are silver discs that are designed in the shape of your nipple and between breastfeeding your bub you put them over your nipple so that the antibacterial properties of the silver offer immediate protection for breastfeeding mothers to reduce the incidence of chaffing or cracking.

So you can see the full description and purchase them from our website here and once my new bub arrives I’ll go a review of them and let you know if they help with cracking and sore nipples.

717GYNkLo4L._SX522_302b36_a3a16b82b354430f8e5a0733fd0bab02

__________________________________
Amorini USA have released a YouTube video – Amorini – Dive Into Breastfeeding With Confidence

 

Here are some articlesrelated to how silver assists breastfeeding mothers:

http://factbasedhealth.com/how-silver-helps-breastfeeding-mothers/

http://calidiet.com/how-to-treat-sore-nipples-for-breastfeeding-mothers/

See Amorini Breastfeeding Mothers’ Best Friends™ FAQ and some reviews from their website


Controversy

So like most business owners I was pretty chuffed we had the opportunity to stock this product and so decided to shout it from the roof tops via social media.  So I posted on all of our media channels Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest and Google+ but just to gain extra boost I thought I would pay for some advertising on Facebook.  Little did I know I was opening a can of worms.  I utilised the photo at the top of this post which was a promo photo provided by Amorini USA for the purpose of promotion of the product.

After initially trying to advertise on Facebook I received a message back letting me know that my post had not been approved for advertising due to the nature of the picture which obviously via software or automatic scanning had been deemed as “Your ad content violates Facebook Ad Guidelines. Ads are not allowed to promote the sale or use of adult products or services, including toys, videos, publications, live shows or sexual enhancement products. Ads for family planning and contraception are allowed if they follow our targeting requirements.”

I was a bit taken aback to say the least and decided to appeal the decision based on the fact it was a promotional photo for the purpose of assisting breastfeeding mothers. I received another polite response from a person at Facebook (Tiarah) advising:

“Thanks for writing in.

Your ad was disapproved because the image being used in the ad shows excessive breast shown.

The current post remains published, but isn’t running as an ad. If you’d like to boost your post, you’ll have to recreate it with a policy-compliant image and boost it again.”

So whilst Facebook are happy with the post to remain on my business page they were not happy to promote the picture/post at my expense.  Given the content I see popping up in my news feed I found this quite extraordinary and thought I would ask my friends on Facebook (via my personal account) their general thoughts.

The majority of people cried outrage and ridiculousness and a couple of current breastfeeding mothers even suggested I take it further with petitions, contacting Mark Zuckerburg direct or A Current Affair.

Whilst an advocate of breastfeeding, I would even go so far as to say I’m pro-breastfeeding, I still feel that it is a personal choice.  I did have one person (and everyone is entitled to their opinion) say that they hate content like this photo.  I was intrigued as to why that was and asked them to elaborate further to which the reply was that it the photo wasn’t any different to some of friend’s post of excessive breast but that breastfeeding shouldn’t be plastered everywhere, they didn’t understand what all the fuss is about just get on with it.

Being that this is my blog so therefore I can state my own opinion which  is the following:

I tend to agree, I am pro breastfeeding but I don’t go posting photos of myself on Facebook either showing breast or breastfeeding as to me it is a personal choice and how you choose to do it.  It is also up to the individual who should be able post photos of their breasts if they choose to and also to be able to feed their baby in public without being ohhed and ahhed at. However I just think stopping an advertisement that is targeting people who are interested in breastfeeding and providing them with a remedy for what may ail them with a photo that really only shows skin and a baby’s head is a bit over the top on Facebook’s behalf.

So needless to say I still posted the same post and was able to boost it as a paid advertisement but the way I got round it was to remove the actual picture and replace it with a direct link to my website so now the following picture shows in the post, which as an external picture is obviously not bound by the same ‘excessive breast’ rules.

302b36_6bb2bcf03dbb487a95c53066733f3959

 

Mel Parish
Director/Owner
Little Treasures n Trinkets

Posted on

Welcome to Little Treasures n Trinkets

 

Welcome to Little Treasures n Trinkets

Little Treasures Baby Boutique & Little Treasures n Trinkets

 

Hi everyone by way of introduction my name is Mel Parish and Ive just purchased Little Treasures Baby Boutique from Denise the previous owner.

A little about me – I am married and work full time in the I.T industry and have a 4.5 year old girl. My plan for the business is to build on what Denise has accomplished and expand the brand to include Everything for mums, bubs and beyond!

I’m planning on focusing on providing quality products that I love as well as providing a range of handmade items that have been made with love. Over the next six (6) months the name will transition from Little Treasures Baby Boutique to Little Treasures n Trinkets to incorporate all of our new products and new direction.

I’m hoping to find unique, useful products for mums to be, to assist in pregnancy and birth as well as items that will be useful for baby to toddler to older boys and girls. I’m also stocking a range of gift items for baby showers and/or new babies. If you can’t decide what to purchase we also have gift vouchers ranging from $25 to $100 that can be redeemed here at our store.

I’ve also been busy finding a great group of creative people that make quality handmade items under their own Brands which also fit with the direction of our store and I’m incorporating those for that one of a kind gift or keepsake as well as made to order products.

Our new website, as you can see, is coming together and I’m busy testing and stocking up with products I hope you will all love. Thanks Denise for being so helpful with the handover.

So from my family to yours have a great day and I wish Denise all the best in the future.

Mel Parish

Director/Owner

Little Treasures n Trinkets